Anxiety Always worrying about older children

 

Lammchen

Member
Parents never stop worrying about their children. My daughter is 27 and lives on her own and if I don't hear from her every few days I begin to worry. If she doesn't text me to tell me she made it home after driving back to the city I worry!

It's okay to worry...but is there a time when it can become too much?
 

PGen98

I, Am I?
Community Leader
I think the only time it becomes too much is if you were to start expecting to hear every day, or started checking up every day. I think worrying about your children, even as they're getting older and living their lives, is a perfectly natural thing. You're concerned for their well being because, no matter their age, they're still your baby :)
 

Lee

Can't get enough...!
Community Leader
I think having older children is likely to be MORE worrisome for me. I can think of 100 things that my older children might do that can result in death, that my younger children just wont do.

I am not looking forward to the drinking / bars / clubs phase of life at all. I will be a nervous wreck! :O
 

PGen98

I, Am I?
Community Leader
I think having older children is likely to be MORE worrisome for me. I can think of 100 things that my older children might do that can result in death, that my younger children just wont do.

I am not looking forward to the drinking / bars / clubs phase of life at all. I will be a nervous wreck! :O
One reason I'm glad I don't have kids is this very phase. That and relationships, I'd be terrified by my kids reaching the age where they're interested in relationships. I wouldn't care if my child was straight, gay, trans, pansexual, etc, but the second they actually started finding someone "interesting," that's when my anxiety would kick into full gear. I don't know how parents cope with that!
 

JoyFreak

Member
It's only natural to feel worried about your children. It can be frustrating if the child is no longer a child but an adult. You just have to be less suffocating and more understanding.
 

Lammchen

Member
It's only natural to feel worried about your children. It can be frustrating if the child is no longer a child but an adult. You just have to be less suffocating and more understanding.

That's really hard. My daughter is late 20s and I worry about her all the time. She lives in the city whereas I live in the country and she is totally oblivious to the crime around her.
 
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